What to Do When Your Expectations of Yourself are Overwhelming.
Posted: December 5, 2019
by Jameson Holman, LMFT
So you’re feeling inspired. You have a new resolve to do better, to be better than ever before! Okay so maybe that last bit was overzealous. If you’re like me you probably loose steam after the initial buzz of commitment wears off and you’re back in the real world again with your real world problems (which as much as we hate to admit is probably of the first world variety). Well not to worry if you are feeling that way because I have three things for you that will help you stay energized!
- You are enough. I cannot stress this enough. Despite how less than you may feel when facing the self-perceived insurmountable obstacle course that you’ve set for yourself remember you are already good enough. No one on this planet is quite like you and no one has your unique perspective and your quirkiness so embrace what you bring to the obstacle course and let that guide you through it. Trust your wits and your instincts and give yourself the validation you deserve.
- Strive for your best not perfection. We have this bizarre tendency to set our expectations on this idylic version of our selves that is perfect in every way which is utterly ridiculous and not to mention very unrealistic. Instead we should take that same drive and apply it to just being the best possible version of ourselves today than we were yesterday. There is nothing wrong with wanting to better yourself but take time to also recognise the progression in the process.
- Baby steps. I think this is self explanatory due to the very internal nature of being human. I mean if you really think about it, how did you learn to do anything in life if not yet for taking that initial small step towards whatever you wanted to accomplish? It is the small step that in turn becomes walking which in turn becomes running. You were made for this. You were built for the marathon and not just the sprint.