Nurturing your Marriage
Posted: February 14, 2019
Does your marriage feel a little flat? Barring some gross issue such as domestic violence or infidelity, most marriages experience ups and downs and can be improved by attending to the following two areas. See the good and address hurt feelings.
First, let's start with seeing the good. Between being too busy, only dealing with problems and just losing sight of each other, we need to draw attention back onto the good. Our spouse has good and bad qualities (as do ourselves) and we may need to put a little more energy in seeing the good more often. Strangely, this can be hard. Start by setting a reminder on your phone each day to just pause and think about the good things about your spouse. Ask yourself:
- What does she do for me that I do not acknowledge well?
- What are some qualities about him that I admire and honestly wish I had?
- What are her most attractive traits?
- What new great thing have I recently realized about him?
- What does she do well?
- Where do I see him making effort?
- How does she make my life better?