Being in Love is Not Enough: The Five Kinds of Intimacy

By Scott Parker, CSW
So you know about Gary D. Chapman’s five love languages, but have you heard of his five sides of intimacy (from the book Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married)? The idea is simple, but this brief checklist can help you find a romantic partner your are not only excited about, but who has potential for being a long-term match. If you’re already married, this can help you identify areas to work on.
Physical: Are you comfortable with, and attracted to, each other’s bodies?
Emotional: Can you share your feelings and feel understood?
Social: Even if one partner is more extroverted than the other, do you enhance each other’s social lives by giving freedom and support?
Spiritual: Are you able to share your most important values and beliefs, and work together toward a higher purpose?
Intellectual: Can you share your intellectual journey in a way that is stimulating and expands your horizons?
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