By Scott Parker, CSW
So you know about Gary D. Chapman’s five love languages, but have you heard of his five sides of intimacy (from the book Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married)? The idea is simple, but this brief checklist can help you find a romantic partner your are not only excited about, but who has potential for being a long-term match. If you’re already married, this can help you identify areas to work on.
Physical: Are you comfortable with, and attracted to, each other’s bodies?
Emotional: Can you share your feelings and feel understood?
Social: Even if one partner is more extroverted than the other, do you enhance each other’s social lives by giving freedom and support?
Spiritual: Are you able to share your most important values and beliefs, and work together toward a higher purpose?
Intellectual: Can you share your intellectual journey in a way that is stimulating and expands your horizons?